Hair pulling is often a subconscious way to escape from feelings that
are hard to process, like anxiety, avoidance, boredom or stress. It can
create a kind of ‘zoned out’ feeling of comfort and relaxation. After
pulling the blocked out feelings return accompanied by more bad feeling
caused by the act of pulling. Pulling is usually followed by feelings of
self-blame, disappointment and despair, far out-weighing the positive
feeling from the initial hair-pull.
People often try to hide or disguise their pulling due to
embarrassment and fear. You can help by offering understanding and
Pulling often begins at a young age, by the time it is addressed it
has often become strongly ingrained as a habit and is difficult to break
away from. We have all heard how hard it can be to stop smoking; well
the processes in the brain relating to breaking the two addictions are
You can find out more in the support section where we have information for health professionals, teachers, partners, friends and family.
Why do I pull my hair out?
The simple answer is because you have a compulsive condition. It is NOT your fault.
Trichotillomania affects about 1 in 30 people, so you are not alone.
The act of hair pulling is addictive and is a conditioned response
that releases dopamine in your brain. Dopamine is a ‘feel-good’ hormone
associated with reward centres in the brain, so that’s why it feels good
to pull. It might feel good at the time, but the negative impact of
hair-pulling on our lives is huge. Pulling is usually immediately
followed by self-blame, disappointment and despair, far out-weighing the
The more we pull, the more we strengthen the pathways that cause the
addiction. The good news is that we can re-condition our brains not to
respond to pulling in that way, and the way we can do this is by not
The less you pull, the less you want to pull.
A cure for trichotillomania doesn’t have to be out of your reach.
Support on this site is second to none. The people here are truly
encouraging and rooting – not for that illusive right hair or
lash, but for Growth. We know pulling can cease because we’ve stopped it
ourselves, not for days but for YEARS, and so can you.
Our pledge is the provision of a safe zone where people can confide,
create, recover and discover using interactive, cutting-edge technology,
the power to challenge and change beliefs and behaviours that may have
previously lead to hair or eyelash pulling.
There is always someone here who can help or just listen. Positivity is our priority and our emphasis is on GROWTH.